Big Book Beginnings

By 1937, some of us realized that AA needed a standard literature. There would have to be a book. . . Well, we did quarrel violently over the preparation and distribution of that AA Book. In fact, it took five years for the clamor to die down. Should any AA's dream that the old-timers who put the Book together went about at the time in serene meditation and white robes, then they had best forget it.
- The Language of the Heart, p. 133.
Walk softly and carry a Big Book.
B I G B O O K = Believing In God Beats Our Old Knowledge.

 

patience

Know that the more enduring your patience, the more certain your reward. There is no great accomplishment that is not the result of patient working and waiting.

Life is not a race. No road will be too long for you if you advance deliberately and without haste. Avoid, like the plague, every carriage that halts to offer you a swift journey to wealth, fame and power. Life has such hard conditions, even at its best, that the temptations when they appear, can destroy you. Walk. You are able.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. With patience you can bear up under any adversity and survive any defeat. With patience you can control your destiny and have what you will.
Patience is the key to contentment, for you and for those who must live with you.
Realize that you cannot hurry success any more than the lives of the field can bloom before their season.

What pyramid was ever built by a stone at a time?
How poor are they who have not patience?
What wound did ever heal but by degrees?
Every priceless attribute which wise men trumpet as necessary for the achievement of success is useless without patience.

To be brave without patience can kill you. To be ambitious without patience can destroy the most promising careers. To strive for wealth without patience will only separate you from your thin purse. And to persevere without patience is always impossible. Who can hold on, who can persevere, without the waiting that attends it?
Patience is power. Employ it to stiffen your spirit, sweeten your temper, stifle your anger, bury your envy, subdue you pride, bridle your tongue, restrain your hand, and deliver you whole, in due time, to the life you deserve.

from the book :-

__10 commandments of success

 

 

Four steps to achievement:

1,  plan purposefully,

2,  prepare prayerfully,

3,  proceed positively,

4,  pursue persistently.
by __William A. Ward.

 

Tornado

The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. Hearts are broken. Sweet relationships are dead. Affections have been uprooted. Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept the home in turmoil. We feel a man is unthinking when he says that sobriety is enough.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 82.
The storm has passed. I've learned a little more about peace. It was inside all the time.
C H A O S = Creating Havoc Around OurSelves.

 

 
Hi, I'm Venki, an recovering Alcoholic. The Big Book (p.83) tells us, "Yes, there is a long road of reconstruction ahead. We must take the lead." When I was drinking, I used to call myself "a whirlwind wherever I go" and I would boast of that! Come to find out, I'm really a tornado wreaking much more damage than I could see in front of me. Now, almost 6 months without a drink, I've found myself in the eye of the storm again, only with my emotional sobriety this time. The last few months, I have come to terms with the fact that just being sober is NOT enough. Because of a change in my work schedule, and also the changes my body is going through physically, as I am 5 months pregnant now, I have only been making two or three meeting a week. Thank God for the service positions that force me to commit.  two meetings a week is not enough. But I know how to put an end to it -- ACTION! Even when I don't feel like it, even when it's the last thing I want to do, if I feel deep down that I'm supposed to be doing something, I know the outcome will overcome the fear I have once I just DO IT. I need more meetings, more meditation, more service, and more communication with God. I am determined to pull myself out of this funk! With the kit of spiritual tools this program has given me, I have been a fool to not use them daily.

What Is Acceptance?

One way to get at the meaning of the principle of acceptance is to meditate upon it in the context of AA's much used prayer, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Essentially this is to ask for the resources of grace by which we may make spiritual progress under all conditions. Greatly emphasized in this wonderful prayer is a need for the kind of wisdom that discriminates between the possible and the impossible. We shall also see that life's formidable array of pains and problems will require many different degrees of acceptance as we try to apply this valued principle.
Sometimes we have to find the right kind of acceptance for each day. Sometimes we need to develop acceptance for what may come to pass tomorrow, and yet again we shall have to accept a condition that may never change. Then, too, there frequently has to be a right and realistic acceptance of grievous flaws within ourselves and serious faults within those about us - defects that may not be fully remedied for years, if ever.
All of us will encounter failures, some retrievable and some not. We shall often meet with defeat - sometimes by accident, sometimes self-inflicted, and at still other times dealt to us by the injustice and violence of other people. Most of us will meet up with some degree of worldly success, and here the problem of the right kind of acceptance will be really difficult. Then there will be illness and death. How indeed shall we be able to accept all these?
It is always worthwhile to consider how grossly that good word acceptance can be misused. It can be warped to justify nearly every brand of weakness, nonsense, and folly. For instance, we can "accept" failure as a chronic condition, forever without profit or remedy. We can "accept" worldly success pridefully, as something wholly of our own making. We can also "accept" illness and death as certain evidence of a hostile and godless universe. With these twistings of acceptance, we AAs have had vast experience. Hence we constantly try to remind ourselves that these perversions of acceptance are just gimmicks for excuse-making: a losing game at which we are, or at least have been, the world's champions.
This is why we treasure our Serenity Prayer so much. It brings a new light to us that can dissipate our old-time and nearly fatal habit of fooling ourselves. In the radiance of this prayer we see that defeat, rightly accepted, need be no disaster. We now know that we do not have to run away, nor ought we again try to overcome adversity by still another bulldozing power drive that can only push up obstacles before us faster than they can be taken down.
On entering AA, we become the beneficiaries of a very different experience. Our new way of staying sober is literally founded upon the proposition that "Of ourselves, we are nothing, the Father doeth the works." In Steps One and Two of our recovery program, these ideas are specifically spelled out: "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable" - "Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." We couldn't lick alcohol with our own remaining resources and so we accepted the further fact that dependence upon a higher power (if only our AA group) could do this hitherto impossible job. The moment we were able to fully accept these facts, our release from the alcohol compulsion had begun. For most of us this pair of acceptances had required a lot of exertion to achieve. Our whole treasured philosophy of self-sufficiency had to be cast aside. This had not been done with old-fashioned willpower; it was instead a matter of developing the willingness to accept these new facts of living. We neither ran nor fought. But accept we did. And then we were free. There had been no irretrievable disaster.
This kind of acceptance and faith is capable of producing 100 percent sobriety. In fact it usually does; and it must, else we could have no life at all. But the moment we carry these attitudes into our emotional problems, we find that only relative results are possible. Nobody can, for example, become completely free from fear, anger, and pride. Hence in this life we shall attain nothing like perfect humility and love. So we shall have to settle, respecting most of our problems, for a very gradual progress, punctuated sometimes by heavy setbacks. Our old-time attitudes of "all or nothing" will have to be abandoned.
Therefore our very first problem is to accept our present circumstances as they are, ourselves as we are, and the people about us as they are. This is to adopt a realistic humility without which no genuine advance can even begin. Again and again, we shall need to return to that unflattering point of departure. This is an exercise in acceptance that we can profitably practice every day of our lives. Provided we strenuously avoid turning these realistic surveys of the facts of life into unrealistic alibis for apathy or defeatism, they can be the sure foundation upon which increased emotional health and therefore spiritual progress can be built. At least this seems to be my own experience.
Another exercise that I practice is to try for a full inventory of my blessings and then for a right acceptance of the many gifts that are mine - both temporal and spiritual. Here I try to achieve a state of joyful gratitude. When such a brand of gratitude is repeatedly affirmed and pondered, it can finally displace the natural tendency to congratulate myself on whatever progress I may have been enabled to make in some areas of living. I try hard to hold fast to the truth that a full and thankful heart cannot entertain great conceits. When brimming with gratitude, one's heartbeat must surely result in outgoing love, the finest emotion that we can ever know.

In times of very rough going, the grateful acceptance of my blessings, oft repeated, can also bring me some of the serenity of which our prayer speaks. Whenever I fall under acute pressures I lengthen my daily walks and slowly repeat our Serenity Prayer in rhythm to my steps and breathing. If I feel that my pain has in part been occasioned by others, I try to repeat, "God grant me the serenity to love their best, and never fear their worst." This benign healing process of repetition, sometimes necessary to persist with for days, has seldom failed to restore me to at least a workable emotional balance and perspective.
Another helpful step is to steadfastly affirm the understanding that pain can bring. Indeed pain is one of our greatest teachers. Though I still find it difficult to accept today's pain and anxiety with any great degree of serenity - as those more advanced in the spiritual life seem able to do - I can, if I try hard, give thanks for present pain nevertheless. I find the willingness to do this by contemplating the lessons learned from past suffering - lessons which have led to the blessings I now enjoy. I can remember, if I insist, how the agonies of alcoholism, the pain of rebellion and thwarted pride, have often led me to God's grace, and so to a new freedom. So, as I walk along, I repeat still other phrases such as these, "Pain is the touchstone of progress" . . . "Fear no evil". . . "This, too, will pass" . . . "This experience can be turned to benefit."
These fragments of prayer bring far more than mere comfort. They keep me on the track of right acceptance; they break up my compulsive themes of guilt, depression, rebellion, and pride; and sometimes they endow me with the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
To those who never have given these potent exercises in acceptance a real workout, I recommend them highly the next time the heat is on. Or, for that matter, at any time.
________By Bill W.
AA Grapevine - March 1962.

Habits

Our drinking was connected with many habits -- big and little.
Some of them were thinking habits, or things we felt inside ourselves.
Others were doing habits -- things we did, actions we took.
In getting used to not drinking, we found that we needed new habits
to take the place of those old ones.
- Living Sober, p. 1

Habits are like cork or lead -- they tend to keep you up or hold you down.
H O W = Honesty, Open-mindedness, Willingness.


 

Turning Outward

The joy of living is the theme of AA's Twelfth Step, and action is its key word. Here we turn outward toward our fellow alcoholics who are still in distress. Here we begin to practice all Twelve Steps of the program in our daily lives so that we and those about us may find emotional sobriety.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 106

 

The Twelve Steps ~~ a manuscript for rational living.
S T E P S = Solutions Through-Each Positive Step